Get Your Shit Together

I’m sharing this with you because over the years and especially even more so recently I have had many people tell me that I have my shit together. And most of the time I don’t know how to respond besides meekly saying, “Thank you.” But today, I took a different look at this. A woman in my workout group this morning came up to me afterward and said, “I really love your Facebook posts, you’re so inspirational. You have your shit together.” Of course, I said thank you, but also offered that it’s not quite all together.

Then I told her that I really believe having your shit together is a state of mind. And the more I thought about it, the more this is true. Many people look like they have their shit together on the outside and live this perfect life, when it may actually be in shambles. Or they may appear to have the perfect life but be madly depressed. Having your shit together isn’t just having all of your “adulting” down pat, it’s also a state of mind, and ensuring your image of having your shit together is yours, and not societies version of what that looks like.

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Life Advice For the Real You (5 Steps)

There is A LOT of life advice on the market today, everywhere you turn there is a new self-help book, or new article with the top tips to improve yourself and/or help you find the real you. Well, I’ll beat you to the punch and say this is another one of those articles (sort-of). My hope though with this specific article is that it will provoke real, fire-under-ass lighting change and a sense of purpose that will continue to grow as the days go on. IF this works how I intend it to, you hopefully won’t have to read another article or book because you are still lost on who you are, what your purpose is, or what your passion might be.

Let’s get to it.

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Transcending Standing in Your Own Way

transcending, thoughts out loud, buddha, brene brown

Today I shared a quote from Brene Brown on my Facebook, someone had shared it and it really hit home for me, so I decided to share it too (pasted below). I’ve had this weird ‘woo woo’ feeling if you will, the last few months and the best way I can describe it is transitional. I have a lot going on in my life right now, and so do all of my friends and family. Everyone is walking through their own storm. But it’s like I feel and see what is going on, more obvious than usual.

I am a very stubborn, hard headed person and I know that God has been giving me little messages for a little over a year now, and I have been ignoring them. Go figure. The first message is Prioritize. This has showed up in both my work and personal life. I have so much gong on that I do what a lot of people do and totally shut down. There is so much to do that I don’t know how to get a handle on, that I just throw my hands in the air and hope it all works out. And I’m guessing I’m not the only one.

I have little streaks of awesome prioritization where I am just on top of my game, task-listing it up. Then all of a sudden Continue reading

Hello Hiatus

Let’s just call it as it is from the get go – it’s been a helluva long time since I have written a post. The worst part is as I was logging into WordPress I was crossing my fingers that I still knew my password. So yeah, it’s been that long.

It’s kind of funny, I thought of the title for this post about a week ago. But I am only now writing the post, obviously. The more interesting part is that this reminded me of a video I watched a long time ago by Elizabeth Gilbert aptly titled, “Your elusive creative genius”. Elusive being the key word and theme of this post. The video is absolutely worth a watch, but I will give you the gist of it here. She talks about your creative side as being this well, “entity” if you will, that “chooses” you. I know, it sounds weird and super woo-woo, but hear me out. Better yet watch the video here.

Basically throughout history many cultures believed that these entities lived in the home of an artist and would help them with their work. They referred to these entities as the artists, “genius“.  Continue reading

When Self Development Becomes Self Destruction

self development, self destruction

This is related to my last post about taking on too many things and having a reality check because of it. I wanted to pull one single piece from that post and expand on it. Because while it was just a small piece of the pie, in retrospect it was a huge one.

Earlier this year I got into life coaching, I fell head over heels in love with the field. So much so that I decided to become a certified life coach. That’s all fine and dandy, and it was a lot of work. But what ensued after that was something I don’t think I would’ve ever asked myself, had it not been for my decision to become a life coach.

Life coaching involves a lot of self development, both for you and your client. In this field, most coaches refer to this as “the work”. You have to do your own work, in order to be able to also help your clients. Because if you aren’t able to work on your own personal “stuff” then how will you be able to help a client? Again this is all fine and dandy. BUT…

You see, this is just about the point where I took the whole self development bit a little too far. I am a very ambitious person Continue reading

Lessons from a Garden Hose

water the garden, doing too much

Recently, I have spread myself too thin. I took on way more than I can handle this year, I started two businesses, have done a ton of self development, became a certified life coach and Wix Webmaster, became an ambassador for the Body Image Movement, read at least ten books…just listing all of this right now is making me anxious.

Have you ever been there?

Have you ever bitten off more than you can chew, and then all of a sudden life metaphorically smacks you in the face to say, “Hey! Are you even here right now?”

Yeah. That’s what happened to me this last week.

I have been so incredibly focused on countless “other things” this entire year, that I haven’t even really made time for the things I enjoy…but the worst part of it is, I didn’t realize any of this until I was bitch slapped Continue reading

The Problem With Math

Thoughts Out Loud - Life Not Guaranteed

“My life is a quarter of the way over!” Says a just-turned 25 year old.

But do you know what is wrong with that statement? I’ll tell you. It’s completely false! Now, a rational being like yourself might think, “Uh no, saying your life is a quarter of the way over at 25 is totally right.”

But you see, that is where you are totally wrong. Actually, this is where a huge majority of the population is wrong.

I’m not very good at math, but even I know that 25 x 4 = 100, BUT that equation DOES NOT apply to your life people!

Since when is anyone guaranteed 100 years on this earth? Exactly.

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