I’m sharing this with you because over the years and especially even more so recently I have had many people tell me that I have my shit together. And most of the time I don’t know how to respond besides meekly saying, “Thank you.” But today, I took a different look at this. A woman in my workout group this morning came up to me afterward and said, “I really love your Facebook posts, you’re so inspirational. You have your shit together.” Of course, I said thank you, but also offered that it’s not quite all together.
Then I told her that I really believe having your shit together is a state of mind. And the more I thought about it, the more this is true. Many people look like they have their shit together on the outside and live this perfect life, when it may actually be in shambles. Or they may appear to have the perfect life but be madly depressed. Having your shit together isn’t just having all of your “adulting” down pat, it’s also a state of mind, and ensuring your image of having your shit together is yours, and not societies version of what that looks like.
Today I shared a quote from Brene Brown on my Facebook, someone had shared it and it really hit home for me, so I decided to share it too (pasted below). I’ve had this weird ‘woo woo’ feeling if you will, the last few months and the best way I can describe it is transitional. I have a lot going on in my life right now, and so do all of my friends and family. Everyone is walking through their own storm. But it’s like I feel and see what is going on, more obvious than usual.
I am a very stubborn, hard headed person and I know that God has been giving me little messages for a little over a year now, and I have been ignoring them. Go figure. The first message is Prioritize. This has showed up in both my work and personal life. I have so much gong on that I do what a lot of people do and totally shut down. There is so much to do that I don’t know how to get a handle on, that I just throw my hands in the air and hope it all works out. And I’m guessing I’m not the only one.
I have little streaks of awesome prioritization where I am just on top of my game, task-listing it up. Then all of a sudden Continue reading
Recently, I have spread myself too thin. I took on way more than I can handle this year, I started two businesses, have done a ton of self development, became a certified life coach and Wix Webmaster, became an ambassador for the Body Image Movement, read at least ten books…just listing all of this right now is making me anxious.
Have you ever been there?
Have you ever bitten off more than you can chew, and then all of a sudden life metaphorically smacks you in the face to say, “Hey! Are you even here right now?”
Yeah. That’s what happened to me this last week.
I have been so incredibly focused on countless “other things” this entire year, that I haven’t even really made time for the things I enjoy…but the worst part of it is, I didn’t realize any of this until I was bitch slapped Continue reading
“My life is a quarter of the way over!” Says a just-turned 25 year old.
But do you know what is wrong with that statement? I’ll tell you. It’s completely false! Now, a rational being like yourself might think, “Uh no, saying your life is a quarter of the way over at 25 is totally right.”
But you see, that is where you are totally wrong. Actually, this is where a huge majority of the population is wrong.
I’m not very good at math, but even I know that 25 x 4 = 100, BUT that equation DOES NOT apply to your life people!
Since when is anyone guaranteed 100 years on this earth? Exactly.
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Perfect is intangible and also unattainable. Why? Because we always change our perception of perfection. Read that line again if it made you a little tongue tied, you’ll get it the second time around.
A great example: If I do this, then I will be happy. “If I lose 20 pounds, I will be happy”, “If I get a promotion, I will be happy”, If, if, if, if….Do you see it? There is always a condition to meet before you can be happy. It’s complete madness at its best! If you have to wait for something to happen in order to make you happy, you might as well grab a magazine, find a comfy chair and sit your ass down, because you’re going to be waiting awhile.
“Perfection” then, can never be. Happiness however is tangible and attainable, AND you can have it right now. No gimmicks, no tricks, no “just pay shipping and handling”. It’s yours for the taking and it is always there.
It’s simple if you want to be happy….be!
“Remember, happiness is a way of travel not a destination” – Roy Goodman
Fear is a state of mind. Think about it, you might have a fear of something that someone else does not fear. Yet they have a fear of something different that you also don’t fear at all. If they think your fear is ridiculous yet you think the same about theirs, then you’ve reached the point when you realize all fear is subjective, you have the control. It’s your choice to give fear the permission to enter your life. Fear is only a real thing if you let it have the control. Even then it’s not so much “real” but more of an over anxious thought of the mind, that pokes at you until your brain manifests the idea as real. Let go of all fear, bring it into the light and take control.